How We Plan Outdoor Adventures Without Breaking the Bank

The days are getting shorter, and by 6pm it’s already pitch black. Between the early sunsets, cold weather, and kids who still have energy to burn, it can feel like your options for family activities shrink fast. But even with the darkness and freezing temps, we still find fun ways to spend time together without spending a ton of money. Here are a few of our favorite low-cost activities for those cozy winter evenings:

1. Watching movies
December is the perfect time to catch up on holiday classics with the kids. We all love piling on the couch, grabbing some popcorn, and relaxing with a good movie. One of our all-time favorites is Home Alone. We could watch it a hundred times and never get tired of it.

2. Making crafts
This season is ideal for fun little DIY projects. Whether it’s homemade ornaments for the tree, painting, or building something simple, we love the quality time that comes with creating together. Ornament-making is always a big hit, especially as Christmas gets closer.

3. Baking
Baking might not sound exciting to everyone, but trust me, it’s a blast with kids. Muffins, brownies, cookies, cake pops, you name it. The kids love it, and even though we’re all on a fitness journey, we make it work in moderation!

4. Recreation centers
We’re lucky that our local rec center only charges a few bucks for a day pass. No membership required. We just show up, pay the small fee, and enjoy the pool or basketball court. It’s an easy, budget-friendly way to get out of the house.

5. Light shows
This time of year is perfect for drive-through Christmas lights. It’s inexpensive, magical for the kids, and you can get some beautiful pictures.

6. Backyard fire + movie night
We don’t do this if it’s freezing, but when the weather isn’t too brutal, we set up the projector outside, start a small fire, and enjoy a movie under the stars with some delicious s’mores. The kids absolutely love it.

Even though the nights are longer and the weather is colder, there are still so many fun things you can do as a family. You don’t need to spend a lot. You just need to get a little creative. All of these activities are low-cost, simple, and work with any budget. So embrace the cozy season and make the most of your evenings together!

Blending Our Family – The Hard Truths

Blending families comes with beautiful moments, but it also comes with challenges that people don’t really talk about. For those who have experienced it, you know exactly what I mean. And for those who haven’t, I want to share the hard truths that I’ve faced and am still navigating today.

This isn’t to say that blending a family isn’t worth it. It absolutely is. But the emotional, legal, and relational struggles are real, and pretending otherwise doesn’t help anyone. Here are the biggest ones we’ve dealt with:

1. Different Parenting Styles

The hardest part is raising children who move between two completely different worlds.

In my home, we have structure:

• a bedtime
• limits on screens
• expectations for schoolwork
• healthy eating
• active routines

Then the kids go to their other parent’s house… and it all disappears. Suddenly, there’s no bedtime, unlimited device use, junk food every day, and no structure at all. When they come back, I’m the “strict” parent and their dad is the “fun” one. Which child wouldn’t prefer candy, chaos, and no rules?

And every blended family knows the aftermath: rebellion, attitude changes, and the emotional whiplash of kids trying to reconcile two completely different lifestyles. It’s exhausting, and it’s one of the most challenging aspects of co-parenting when values are not aligned.

2. Boundary & Ex-Spouse Issues

This one takes the cake for me.

On my part, my ex simply does as he pleases. If I say, “Please don’t give them candy every day”, he ignores it. No conversation. No cooperation. No middle ground. He wants autonomy, which is fine, but when it affects the kids’ health and emotional stability, it becomes extremely frustrating.

Then, on my husband’s side, we face the complete opposite extreme.

His ex-wife will text constantly, even about things she already knows the answer to. She will insult him, harass him, or try to stir up conflict under the excuse of “it’s for the kids.” My husband sets boundaries clearly, but she pushes past every single one of them.

This doesn’t just affect him. It affects our home, our relationship, and the kids. They’re older now, and they’re noticing the disrespect and the double standards. Watching them process that is heartbreaking.

This extreme, where one ex doesn’t care at all and the other cares too much about all the wrong things is one I never expected to deal with. And it is emotionally draining.

3. Legal Disputes

Thankfully, I don’t deal with this on my side.

But my husband? He deals with endless court filings over the smallest, most ridiculous issues. It has become her way of controlling the situation, demanding attention, and trying to disrupt our lives. It costs money, time, and emotional energy that none of us should have to waste.

From the outside, it feels like she can’t let go. It feels like she sees him happy and wants to destroy that peace. And the sad part is: I know we’re not the only blended family dealing with someone weaponizing the legal system.

I could never imagine doing that to my ex. I don’t interfere with his life, his relationships, or his parenting time. Trying to dominate or control someone you are no longer married to is not normal behavior and yet, so many families deal with this exact dynamic.

4. Navigating Step-Sibling Relationships

This part is actually smoother for us. The kids get along (and fight) like regular siblings. What matters most to me is fairness. In our home:

• They all have chores
• They all follow the same rules
• They all get the same value of gifts on holidays and birthdays
• If I buy treats, I buy them for all
• If I discipline my kids, I discipline my stepkids the same way

The one rule we have is that physical discipline is handled by each biological parent. We rarely ever reach that point taking away screens works much better anyway but the boundary keeps things fair and respectful.

The biggest lesson I’ve learned: kids thrive when the adults are consistent, balanced, and united.

5. Establishing New Traditions

This one is minor but still part of the blended-family reality.

Holiday schedules change. Sometimes we have all the kids. Sometimes we have none. Some years, we celebrate Christmas on December 25th, and some years, we celebrate it on January 1st. It’s not about the date it’s about making the moment meaningful when we are together.

We’ve learned to be flexible, enjoy the time we do have, and create traditions that fit our new family dynamic.

Final Thoughts

Blending a family isn’t easy. Some parts take years to work through, and others you simply learn to navigate with patience and grace. You can’t control everything not the exes, not the schedules, not the different household rules.

But you can control how you show up:

• be fair
• be consistent
• be the steady parent
• be a positive example
• show love to every child in the home

At the end of the day, the kids will grow up. They will remember who showed up for them. They will see the effort, the stability, the love, and the fairness you provided.

And thatm ore than anything else is what truly matters.

Why MOM Guilt is Normal and How to Overcome It

 Why Do Moms Feel Guilty About Everything?

Why, as moms, do we feel guilty for everything?
For wanting alone time. For wanting to work. For being able to work while our kids play alone. It feels like no matter what we do, something always eats at us.

For me, one of the biggest sources of guilt came from wanting to advance in my career. I wanted to climb the ladder, make more money, and be considered “successful.” But then the guilt hit me like a brick.

What if I did climb higher, earned more, and became that version of “successful”? What would that mean for my kids? Would they be happy knowing I was gone all day, missing moments with them? Would they appreciate that the money I made went right back into their lives?

Eventually, I realized my career could wait, but my kids would only be little for a few short years. They need me now. And while that decision eased some of my guilt, motherhood has a funny way of finding new things to feel guilty about.

Take alone time, for example. As a mom, I’m the one everyone runs to when they need something. When I finally carve out an hour for a nail appointment or a quiet coffee alone, I start to wonder, are my kids okay? Even though deep down, I know they are.

Lately, I’ve also felt guilty for letting my 13-month-old son watch Ms. Rachel while I work. Before he was born, I told myself I wouldn’t let him watch TV like I did with my older kids. I wanted to “do better.” But reality looks different when you’re balancing work and motherhood. He’ll play with his toys for a few minutes, but eventually, I need uninterrupted time to focus. So yes, sometimes he watches TV, and yes, I feel guilty every single time.

But here’s what I’ve learned to tell myself: I’m doing my best.
I remind myself not to compare my motherhood journey to someone else’s highlight reel. I focus on getting through each day and being there for my kids in the ways that truly matter.

Does letting my toddler watch TV make me a bad mom?
Does needing “me time” make me a bad mom?
Does wanting to grow in my career make me a bad mom?

No. It makes me human.

There’s a season for everything, and it’s time we, as moms, let go of the constant guilt. We’re doing the best we can, and that’s more than enough.

5 Lessons I've Learned Balancing Career and Motherhood

 🌸 5 Lessons I’ve Learned Balancing Career and Motherhood

Balancing a career and motherhood isn’t easy; it’s one of the toughest challenges modern moms face. Between deadlines, daycare drop-offs, and dinner prep, it can feel impossible to give your best to both your job and your family.
Over the years, I’ve learned that balance doesn’t mean doing it all; it means doing what matters most in each season of life. Here are five lessons that have shaped how I manage work, motherhood, and my own peace of mind.

1. You Can’t Prioritize Your Career and Family at the Same Time

When you’re a working mom, there will always be seasons where one takes priority. And that’s okay.
If your job demands late nights, business travel, and constant pressure, it might come at the cost of precious family moments. I’ve been there, and I realized it wasn’t the life I wanted.
I chose a career path that gives me flexibility and a better work-life balance so I can be present for my kids. Success looks different for everyone, but for me, being there for bedtime stories matters more.

2. You Must Choose What’s Most Important in Each Season

Motherhood and career growth both have their time. Early in my career, I came home exhausted around 7 p.m., barely seeing my kids before bed. I thought I was doing it for them, but I was missing the moments that mattered most.
Now I remind myself that careers can wait; childhood can’t. It’s all about choosing what’s most important right now. There will be a season for hustle and another for slowing down.

3. Yes, You Can Work and Still Be a Great Mom

Being a working mom doesn’t make you any less of a mothe;r it makes you human.
Some women thrive as stay-at-home moms; others, like me, need a sense of personal fulfillment through work. I tried being home full-time, but I felt something was missing. Having a career gives me purpose beyond motherhood, and that makes me a happier mom.
Do what feels right for you. There’s no one perfect version of motherhood, only what fits your family best.

4. Career Growth Is Possible—But It Might Look Different

You can still grow your career while raising kids, it just might take longer, and that’s okay.
Right now, climbing the corporate ladder would mean more travel, longer hours, and less time with my family. For me, slow growth is worth the trade-off.
Your timeline doesn’t have to look like anyone else’s. Progress is still progress, even if it’s at your own pace.

5. Your Children Need You Now

The early years fly by faster than we realize. What you do for your kids today, reading bedtime stories, eating together, simply being present, matters more than any promotion.
I’ve learned this firsthand. I didn’t always get it right with my older kids, but I’m using those lessons now. My toddler needs me, and so do my big kids. Being intentional in this season is my biggest career goal.

💕 Final Thoughts: Finding Balance as a Working Mom

Every mom’s journey looks different. Maybe you’re chasing your dream career, or maybe you’re taking a step back to focus on home life; both choices are valid.
Balancing motherhood and career isn’t about perfection; it’s about presence. It’s about knowing when to push forward and when to pause.
So, to all the working moms, stay-at-home moms, and everything-in-between moms, remember: you’re doing an amazing job.

Wellness in Motherhood

Wellness in Motherhood

Being considered the rock of the family isn’t easy. As moms, we often wear every hat: caregiver, employee, chef, cleaner, scheduler, emotional supporter, and more. Everyone relies on us, and sometimes it feels like we have to hold the world together with nothing left to give.

For me, every week is packed with activities. I work full-time, cook, tidy up the house, help the older kids with school assignments, juggle a toddler during work calls, drive to sports practices, handle doctor appointments, and still try to check in emotionally with my kids and husband. I ask about their day, listen when they’re struggling, and try to lift them up with love and encouragement.

But here’s the truth: Mom burnout is real. I’ve had days when I feel like I’m running on empty, questioning how much longer I can keep up the pace. So how do I stay grounded? How do I protect my mental health and emotional well-being while managing the chaos of motherhood?

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My Two Non-Negotiables for Self-Care

1. Move My Body Even When I’m Exhausted
One of the best mental health tips for moms I’ve learned is to prioritize movement. Exercise isn’t just about fitness; it’s therapy. I carve out time to work out, even if it means hopping on the treadmill after everyone’s asleep. Some days I sneak in a walk, hit the gym, or do a quick at-home HIIT session.

Physical activity helps me release stress, boost my mood, and feel in control again. It’s my reset button the moment I trade anxiety and overwhelm for endorphins and energy.

2. Protect My “Me Time” Without Guilt
As mothers, we often feel guilty taking time for ourselves, but self-care isn’t selfish; it’s essential for survival. After the kids are in bed, I protect that quiet time. Sometimes I scroll, sometimes I journal, and sometimes I just breathe.

Writing my thoughts down or blogging helps me process everything that’s going on inside. Recently, I’ve also started a monthly self-care ritual, doing something purely for me. Whether it’s getting my nails done, buying a new outfit, or treating myself to coffee alone, these small acts of love help refill my emotional tank.

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Finding Peace Amid the Chaos of Motherhood

Some days feel impossible. Some seasons drain you more than others. But I remind myself that every stage of motherhood is temporar,y and this too shall pass.

When the exhaustion hits, I focus on my purpose: my love for my family. All the sleepless nights, messes, and endless to-do lists are building something beautiful, a home filled with love and resilience. My biggest hope is that my children see the example I’m setting: that even in chaos, we can choose strength, gratitude, and grace.

Motherhood isn’t about being perfec,t it’s about being present. Despite the stress, I hold on to one truth: our family bond is forever, and that’s worth fighting for.

My 7lb in 7 Days Challenge (Oct 14–Oct 21)

My 7lb in 7 Days Challenge (Oct 14–Oct 21) 

✨After struggling to stay consistent with my postpartum fitness routine, I decided to push myself and take on a personal challenge: losing 7 pounds in 7 days. I wanted to see what I could achieve with discipline, clean eating, and short daily workouts. The results surprised me, I lost 6.3 pounds in just one week! In this post, I’m breaking down exactly what I did each day, what I ate, and how I stayed motivated throughout the challenge. Whether you’re a busy mom, on your own fitness journey, or just curious if a 7-day challenge really works, this one’s for you. 💪✨

It wasn’t easy, but I’m so proud of my progress. I followed a keto-based diet and worked out 20–35 minutes daily, and it paid off! Below, I’m sharing everything I did during my 7-day challenge, from my workouts to my meals.

Tracking & Diet

I used the free version of the MyFitnessPal app to track my calories and stay in a deficit of around 1,670 calories per day. My meals were high in protein and low in carbs, focused on whole, clean ingredients.
💡 If you want me to share the exact keto-friendly recipes I used, comment below!

Daily Breakdown

Day 1

• Workout: 35-minute leg day (gym)

• Breakfast: Eggs

• Lunch: Protein bar

• Dinner: Chicken with sweet potatoes and carrots

Day 2

• Workout: 30-minute chest & triceps (gym)

• Breakfast: Protein bar

• Lunch: Factor meal

• Dinner: Beef stew

Day 3

• Workout: 1-mile run + back workout (gym)

• Breakfast: Eggs & bacon

• Lunch: Fruit salad

• Dinner: Meatballs with broccoli

Day 4

• Workout: 35-minute leg workout (gym)

• Brunch: Banana & protein shake

• Dinner: Chicken cordon bleu with asparagus

Day 5

• Workout: 2-mile run

• Breakfast: Hard-boiled eggs

• Lunch: Café Rio salad

• Dinner: Ground beef-stuffed zucchini boats

Day 6

• Workout: 1-mile run + 20-minute shoulder & biceps workout

• Breakfast: Protein bar & banana

• Lunch: Factor meal

• Dinner: Beef stew

Day 7

• Workout: Full-body HIIT (home)

• Brunch: Eggs & bacon

• Dinner: Zucchini noodles “carbonara” with bacon & parmesan

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Workout Summary

Day	Focus	Duration
1	Legs	35 min
2	Chest & Triceps	30 min
3	Back + 1-mile Run	40 min
4	Legs	35 min
5	2-mile Run	25 min
6	Shoulders & Biceps	20 min
7	HIIT Cardio (Home)	25 min

Final Thoughts

Even though I didn’t hit the whole 7 pounds, 6.3 pounds in a week is still a big win! I felt stronger, lighter, and more motivated to keep going.

💪 I’ll be doing this challenge again soon. Make sure to follow me on Instagram @allthingsmichy to see my next results and join in!

Outdoor Fun on a Budget: Fall & Winter Family Activities

Outdoor Fun on a Budget: Fall & Winter Family Activities 🍂❄️

You don’t need to spend a fortune to make unforgettable memories with your family, especially during the cozy fall and winter seasons. If you’re trying to stick to a budget, there are still plenty of simple, fun, and meaningful activities you can enjoy together.

Below are some of our favorite things to do as a family here in Utah (and most can be done just about anywhere!). I’ve broken them down into fall and winter ideas. Just keep in mind that daylight hours get shorter this time of year, so plan your outdoor adventures earlier in the day, unless you’re up for exploring with flashlights!

🍁 Fall Activities

1. Go on Family-Friendly Hikes

We live in Utah and love hiking! During the summer, we hit the trails weekly, but once fall arrives, we slow things down a bit. There’s still plenty to explor,e from easy walks perfect for young kids to more challenging trails if you’re feeling adventurous. As a family with little ones, we focus on short, kid-friendly hikes to soak in the crisp fall air and changing leaves.

2. Take Scenic Drives

Utah’s mountain views are breathtaking, especially in the fall. A simple drive through the canyons to admire the colorful leaves is an affordable and relaxing way to spend an afternoon. Bring some snacks, roll down the windows, and enjoy nature’s show from the comfort of your car.

3. Plan a Picnic

Whether it’s breakfast, lunch, or dinner, packing a simple picnic and heading to a local park, lake, or beach is always a hit. We love lying on the grass, enjoying a meal outdoors, and watching the kids run around and explore. It’s amazing how a change of scenery can make even a regular meal feel special.

4. Visit Local Parks

You don’t need to plan an elaborate outing; sometimes, a quick trip to the neighborhood park is all it takes. Even 30 minutes on the swings or slides can make a big difference for kids (and for you!).

5. Host an Outdoor Movie Night

This one is always a family favorite. Grab a budget-friendly projector from Amazon or Walmart, set up a screen (or a white sheet), and enjoy a movie under the stars. Add some popcorn, cozy blankets, and your kids’ favorite film, and you’ve got a magical night without spending much at all.

❄️ Winter Activities

6. Try DIY Projects

Cold weather is the perfect excuse to get creative indoors. One of our go-to activities is painting. We visit Five Below to grab canvases and paint, and everyone gets to unleash their inner artist. To make it more fun, we turn it into a little competition with a small prize for the best piece (though we usually reward everyone with a treat because they always do great!).

7. Backyard or Front Yard Camping

Who says you have to travel far to enjoy camping? Setting up a tent right in your backyard can be just as exciting for kids. You don’t need fancy gear, just the basics like a tent and sleeping bags. You can even use a mattress and blankets from inside if you want to keep things extra cozy. Just remember, fall and winter nights can get chilly, so dress warmly, layer up, and consider using a small heater for added comfort. Add some hot cocoa and s’mores, and you’ve got yourself an adventure without leaving home.

Final Thoughts

Making memories with your family doesn’t have to cost much at all. With a little creativity and planning, fall and winter can become your favorite seasons for family fun. Whether you’re hiking a trail, painting together, or camping under the stars in your own yard, these moments will stick with your kids for years to come, and that’s priceless.

Puerto Rican Rice Recipe - Arroz con Gandules

 

Arroz con Gandules – Puerto Rican Rice Recipe

One of my most popular Puerto Rican dishes is arroz con gandules (rice with pigeon peas). I make this mostly for special occasions, holidays, birthday parties, and family gatherings. Occasionally, I’ll make it for a regular dinner with my family, but it always feels more special when reserved for those memorable moments. It has truly become a family tradition, and everyone expects my Puerto Rican rice to show up at their homes when the holidays roll around.

What makes Puerto Rican rice so special is that it’s often passed down from generation to generation, and every family has its own twist. Some ingredients may vary, but the heart of the dish remains the sam,e flavorful, comforting, and deeply rooted in our culture. My version is the one I learned from my family, and I’m so excited to share our recipe secrets with you here!

If you’ve never had Puerto Rican rice before, now is the time! Trust me, you don’t want to miss out.

🌟 A Few Words of Encouragement

I’ll be honest: making arroz con gandules can be a little tricky at first. When I started, I had my fair share of failed attempt,s sometimes it was undercooked, other times overcooked. It took a few tries to master it and get it just right.

So if yours doesn’t turn out perfectly the first time, don’t get discouraged. Try again if not the same day, then the next. Once you get it right, you’ll never want to go back to plain white rice (unless you’re pairing it with some delicious Puerto Rican beans, of course 😉).

Give it a try and let me know how it goes in the comments. I’d love to hear from you!

🍲 Arroz con Gandules Recipe

Yield: 9 servings
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cook time: 50 minutes
Total time: ~1 hour 5 minutes

🧂 Ingredients:

• 3 cups medium or long-grain white rice, rinsed

• 3 tbsp vegetable oil

• 2 heaping tbsp sofrito

• 2 tbsp tomato paste

• 1 can (15 oz) gandules (pigeon peas), partially drained

• 1 tbsp minced garlic

• 1 packet Sazón with Achiote (I use Goya brand)

• 1 cube chicken flavoring (I use Goya brand)

• ¼ tsp garlic powder

• ¼ tsp onion powder

• ⅛ tsp ground oregano

• Salt and pepper to taste (start with 2 tsp salt)

• ½ red pepper (optional)

• 2 tbsp olives (optional)

• 4 cups hot water

👩‍🍳 Instructions:

1. Rinse the rice well in water and set aside.

2. In a large pot (~6 quarts), heat the oil and sauté sofrito until softened. Add tomato paste and simmer for 2 minutes.

3. Stir in gandules, garlic, red pepper, and all the spices. Add 4 cups of water. Taste and adjust the seasoning. The broth should be well seasoned and slightly salty.

4. Bring to a rapid boil, then add rice and stir. If needed, add more water so the rice is covered by about 1 inch. Reduce the heat to a gentle boil and let most of the liquid absorb, stirring very gently only once or twice to avoid gummy rice.

5. Once most of the liquid is absorbed, level the rice, cover with foil and a lid, and reduce heat to low. Simmer for 20 minutes. Then, fold the rice from the bottom up (don’t scrape the very bottom) and cook for another 20–30 minutes, checking after 20 minutes for tenderness.

6. When the rice is fully cooked and tender, serve and enjoy alongside your favorite meats and side dishes!

🧠 Nutrition Information

Yield: 9 | Serving Size: 1 cup

	Amount per Serving
Calories	146
Total Fat	5g
Saturated Fat	0g
Trans Fat	0g
Unsaturated Fat	4g
Cholesterol	5mg
Sodium	426mg
Carbohydrates	20g
Fiber	2g
Sugar	1g
Protein	5g

Nutrition information provided is an estimate only. Please consult the labels of ingredients you use for more accurate results.

A Taste of Home: Making Surullos After 15 Years Away from Puerto Rico (P.R.)

A Taste of Home

I was born in Puerto Rico, and recently, I had the opportunity to return for the first time in over 15 years. So much has changed, yet so much still feels like home: the vibrant culture, the music in the streets, and most of all… the food.

One appetizer that instantly brought back memories was surullos (also called surullitos when made smaller). These golden corn fritters are a classic in Puerto Rican cuisine, crispy on the outside, soft and moist on the inside, and always served with creamy mayo-ketchup (our version of fry sauce) for dipping.

When I got home, I decided to try making them myself, and they turned out delicious! 😋 You can serve them as an appetizer, a snack, or even alongside your favorite main dish.

What Are Surullos?

Surullos are deep-fried cornmeal fritters, a simple yet comforting food with a crispy exterior and a warm, soft interior. Some people like to add sugar for a sweet version, while others keep them savory. I added just a little sugar for a hint of sweetness, but you can adjust based on your taste!

💡 Tip:
If your dough feels too soft (softer than Play-Doh and sticking to your hands), add a bit more cornmeal it’sl it’s easy to shapit’sf it’s too dry or crumbly, add water a little at a time until you get the perfect texture.

Surullos de Maíz Recipe 🌽

Yield: ~15 surullos
Prep time: 15 minutes
Cook time: 5 minutes
Total time: 20 minutes

🧂 Ingredients:

• 2 cups water (or milk for a creamier texture)

• 1 tbsp butter

• 2 tbsp granulated sugar (optional, adjust for sweetness)

• 1 tsp salt

• 1¼ cups cornmeal

👩‍🍳 Instructions:

1. Boil: In a medium saucepan over medium heat, combine water, butter, sugar, and salt. Bring to a boil.

2. Mix: Whisk in the cornmeal and remove from heat.

3. Cool: Let the mixture cool for 5–10 minutes. Adjust the texture as needed, adding more cornmeal if it’s too sticky or water if it’s too dry.

4. Shape: Once cool enough to handle, scoop about 3 tablespoons of dough and roll into a log shape. Repeat until all the dough is used.

5. Fry: Heat about 1 inch of oil over medium-high heat. Fry surullos for 4–5 minutes until golden brown. Avoid using high heat; it will brown the outside too quickly without properly cooking the inside.

6. Serve: Mix 3 tablespoons of mayo with ketchup to create your dipping sauce, and enjoyThat’sThat’s it, a taste of Puerto Rico right from your kitchen. Surullos are simple, comforting, and absolutely delicious. If you give this recipe a try, let me know how it turns out in the comments bI’dw. I’d love to hear your twist on this Puerto Rican classic!

🧠 Nutrition Information

Yield: 30 | Serving Size: 1 surullo

	Amount per Serving
Calories	43
Total Fat	2g
Saturated Fat	1g
Trans Fat	0g
Unsaturated Fat	1g
Cholesterol	5mg
Sodium	101mg
Carbohydrates	6g
Fiber	0g
Sugar	2g
Protein	1g

Nutrition information provided is an estimate only. Please consult the labels of ingredients you use for more accurate results.

How I Protect My Mental Health in the Middle of Chaos

Carrying the Mental Load of Motherhood

Being busy all the time comes with its challenges. I’m sure many people can relate, but for moms juggling everything, the weight often feels heavier. Even when we have partners who help with chores, meals, or chauffeuring kids to activities, it can still feel like we’re doing more. I’ve caught myself comparing tasks before, and I know I’m not alone.

We’re the ones scheduling doctor appointments, helping with homework, juggling work and kids, and constantly on the move. And when the kids need something, who do they usually ask? Mom. It’s a beautiful attachment, but in the moment, we just need a breather. Most days feel like we’re running on empty, carrying the world on our shoulders.

For me, the pressure builds from more than just motherhood. I serve in the military and have a full-time civilian career on top of that. I’m passionate about learning and currently pursuing my master’s degree. I want to keep advancing, but it often feels like I have to choose between climbing the career ladder and being present for my family. That constant mental tug-of-war is exhausting, and I often wonder if my kids will truly understand the sacrifices behind it all.

Finding My Reset Button

When life feels overwhelming, I turn to movement. Working out helps me release negativity and reset my mindset. Even something as simple as a walk clears my head. On other days, I run or lift, and the difference in my mood is incredible. As a postpartum mom who gained a lot of weight, this journey has also rebuilt my self-esteem. Each bit of progress reminds me I’m stronger than the chaos around me.

Redefining Self-Care as a Busy Mom

One of the biggest challenges we face as moms is carving out time for ourselves. We need that space to unwind and care for our minds and bodie,s but how do we find it when we’re already stretched so thin?

For me, writing and sharing my thoughts became a powerful form of self-care. Even if I only have a few minutes to myself, I use them to connect, reflect, and maybe even help someone else who’s feeling the same way. Too often, we’re made to feel like we shouldn’t complain or seek support beyond our homes. I want to break that cycle. We deserve connection, understanding, and a safe space to talk about the hard stuff.

Your Mental Health Matters Too

Mental health is just as important as physical health. Life is chaotic for everyone in different ways, and that’s okay. What matters is that you take even a few minutes each day just for you, in whatever form that takes.

💛If you’re feeling overwhelmed, start small. Go for that walk. Journal your thoughts. Book that therapy session. And most importantly, give yourself permission to prioritize yourself. You’re not alone, and you’re doing better than you think.

Workout Routine For a Busy Mom

My Current Workout Routine

As a busy mom, fitting in a workout can definitely be a challenge, but I do my best to make it happen. My weekly routine mixes strength training, body weight workouts, and cardio. Some days, I manage to do two, while on other days, I focus on just one, depending on our family schedule.

Since I work from home with a toddler, I rely on a local gym that offers childcare for days when I want to strength train. Their childcare hours are 8 a.m. – 12 p.m. and 4 p.m. – 8 p.m., so I like to book a 30-minute session during those windows. Time slots fill up quickly (it’s first-come, first-served), so I try to reserve mine as early as possible.

Morning workouts work best for me. My typical day starts around 5–6 a.m. when I get ready, make breakfast, and help my older kids get ready for school. I log in to work by 7 a.m., and then take a quick gym break around 8 a.m. for a 30-minute lifting or bodyweight workout session. I’m usually back at my desk by 8:45 a.m.. I aim to do a combination of lifting and/or body weight workouts 4–5 times a week.

If I lift or bodyweight train in the morning, I usually save my cardio for the evening, after dinner and sports practices, around 6–7 p.m. My goal is to run 1–2 miles, 3–4 times per week on the treadmill.

Of course, as a busy mom, no two days look exactly the same. I tailor my workout schedule around my work responsibilities and my kids’ activities.

If you’d like me to share my lifting plan in detail, including the specific exercises and weights I use, let me know in the comments! I’d be happy to make a separate post for that. I've also created a FreeBusy Mom's 7-Day Postpartum guide, which I developed from home on the days when I don't have time to go to the gym or run.   

💪 Remember, progress isn’t about perfection, it’s about showing up for yourself, even in the small moments. Whether it’s a 10-minute walk or a 20-30-minute lifting/body weight workout session, every effort counts. If I can make time to move my body as a working mom with a busy schedule, so can you. 🌟

Drop a comment below and share one step you’re going to take this week to prioritize your health. Let’s encourage and motivate each other to stay strong body, mind, and soul. And if this post inspires you, make sure to follow along on Instagram @at allthings_michy so we can continue to crush our goals together!

Our Family Story

The Heart Behind All Things Michy

Hi, I’m Michy ! Welcome to my little corner of the internet. 💛
Before I dive into the stories, lessons, and real-life chaos I share here, I want to take you all the way back to where it started.

🌴 From Puerto Rico to a Whole New World

I was born in beautiful Puerto Rico and spent the first 10 years of my life in a small town surrounded by lush nature. My childhood was simple and full of outdoor adventures, a true jungle-town girl at heart.

Shortly after my 10th birthday, my mom and I moved to the United States. Overnight, I went from the slow pace of island life to the fast, crowded rhythm of the city. It was a massive culture shock. Spanish was my first language, and learning English was harder than I expected. Everything felt new and unfamiliar.

During high school, I didn’t always make the best choices, and at 16, I became pregnant. Because of my family’s religious beliefs, the decision was made for me to marry, and I did. We did our best to build a family, but ultimately, the marriage didn’t last.

Even with the challenges, I pushed forward. I joined the military at 19, which became a pivotal turning point in my life. Through dedication and perseverance, I earned my bachelor’s degree and began building a professional career.

💕 A New Chapter: Love, Mountains, and Blended Life

Years later, I met my current husband during military training in Arizona. I still remember my first impression of the state. I was mesmerized by the mountains. Coming from a city, I had never seen anything like them. He laughed and told me I hadn’t seen real mountains yet and that I needed to visit Utah.

Our paths separated after training, but we stayed in touch and began a long-distance relationship. We visited each other in different states, fell in love, and eventually decided to get married.

I moved to Utah with my children, and just like that, I fell in love with the mountains as well. They reminded me of my childhood in Puerto Rico and the peace of being surrounded by nature.

Blended family life hasn’t been easy. We navigate challenges with our children and sometimes complicated dynamics with ex-spouses. But through it all, one thing holds us together: love. Our home might be a little chaotic, but it’s also overflowing with laughter, learning, and a lot of heart.

Our Blended Family

✨ Why I Created All Things Michy

The reason I started this blog is simple: to tell my story honestly and unapologetically.

I want this space to be more than just my words. I want it to be a community, a place for real moms navigating real struggles. A space to talk about blended family dynamics, infertility journeys, mental health battles, and what it’s like trying to “do it all” in today’s world.

I know I’m not the only mom out there craving connection. So, if you’re reading this, I hope you’ll stay a while. Share your story. Laugh, cry, and grow with me. This space is for YOU. 💛

📌 Join the Journey

Follow along as I share:

• 🏡 Honest stories about motherhood and blended family life

• 👩‍💼 Working mom tips and career growth struggles

• 🧠 Mental health and resilience

• 🏃‍♀️ Fitness and health after pregnancy

• 🍲 Easy, real-life recipes

• 🌿 Budget-friendly outdoor adventures

We’re all just figuring it out, one day at a time. And together, we’re stronger.

💬 Welcome to All Things Michy — I’m so glad you’re here.

Postpartum Fitness Reality: My Honest Struggles During and After Pregnancy

🏃‍♀️ My Struggles During and After Pregnancy

I was very fit before getting pregnant with my rainbow baby in 2024. I was the fastest and strongest I had ever been. Being part of the military since the age of 19 has “forced” me to stay fit, and it became a lifestyle I loved.

I used to run 5 times a week, logging about 18–20 miles weekly. I also lifted for an hour 4–5 times a week. It was easy to manage because my older two kids could stay home alone while I went to the gym early and still made it to work on time. For years, that was my life, and I thrived in it.

Even throughout our infertility journey (see post: Our Journey Through Infertility), I managed to stay fit. I thought pregnancy would be no different.t I was excited for the challenge and felt confident I’d maintain my fitness. Social media was full of “fit moms” working out with baby bumps, and I was sure I’d be one of them.

Oh boy, I wasn’t even close to prepared for what was ahead.

🤰 The First Trimester Knocked Me Down

My first trimester crushed me. Symptoms started as early as six weeks, and nausea became an all-day affair. I could barely do anything, much less work out. The exhaustion was overwhelming; I couldn’t get up at 4 or even 5 a.m. to train before work.

And then came the surprise: I was pregnant with twins. My symptoms doubled in intensity. Severe food aversions started shortly after week six, and all my healthy eating habits went straight out the window. Everything I had built over years of discipline was gone.

I told myself I’d restart in the second trimester, especially after gaining 30 pounds in just the first three months. But at 12 weeks, I learned I had lost one of the twins. I was devastated and terrified of losing the other. Anxiety and depression hit hard. I stopped working out entirely, and my unhealthy eating continued.

📈 The Weight Gain Spiral

By my third trimester, I knew I had to try something. I still had three months left, but I had already gained 60 pounds. How was that even possible? I asked myself that question every single day.

I started walking and tried to control my eating a bit. Still, I gained another 20 pounds in that final stretch. My body didn’t feel like mine anymore. My face and nose were swollen, I had a double chin, and I was wearing 2XL clothes. My self-esteem hit rock bottom.m

Pre-pregnancy and During the Last Trimester

I repeated positive affirmations daily, but inside, I was struggling deeply with my image. I used to be so strong and fit. How did I get here?

👶 The Fourth Trimester: Reality Check

In the end, I delivered a healthy baby boy, and for that, I am endlessly thankful. Despite a complicated pregnancy, everything turned out okay.

However, my postpartum reality wasn’t what I expected either. Everyone online made it sound like breastfeeding would melt the weight off, but that didn’t happen for me. I wasn’t losing anything.

Eventually, I stopped breastfeeding, restarted workouts, and little by little, the weight began to come off. Twelve months later, I’m still about 30 pounds heavier than my pre-pregnancy weight. And that’s okay.

🏋️‍♀️ Rebuilding Strength, Slowly

Now that my baby is older, I’ve found it easier to stick to a routine again, though it’s nowhere near what it used to be. I run about 8 miles a week, and I lift 3–4 times a week. I’m not as strong or as fast as I once was, but I’m showing up. I’m trying. And little by little, it is getting easier mentally and physically.

Post-pregnancy (30lbs left to go)

💬 You’re Not Alone

If you’re a mom struggling with fitness during or after pregnancy, please know this: you’re not alone. This journey is hard, and it’s okay if you’re not where you used to be. Our bodies do incredible things; they grow life. And that’s worth giving yourself grace.

💛 Comment below and let me know how you’re managing your fitness routines, and if you’re not, that’s okay too. Follow along, and we can do this together.

Our Journey Through Infertility - What I Wish I Knew

🌈 Our Infertility Journey: Heartbreak, Hope, and a Rainbow Baby

Just a bit about me before I dive into the details of our infertility journey. I have two kids from a previous marriage, and they’re now 13 and 11. I had no issues getting pregnant with them at all. In fact, those pregnancies weren’t planned. Fast forward to 2020, when I met my current husband, and I had decided I was done having kids. Two felt like enough.

But life had other plans.

💭 Deciding to Grow Our Family

A year after getting married, my husband and I started talking about growing our family. Yes, I had two children, and he had three from his previous marriage, but we wanted a child of our own, a little piece of us together.

I thought, This will be easy. I’ve done it before without even trying.
Boy, was I wrong.

I tracked ovulation. I got lab work done to find the perfect time to “baby dance.” I researched vitamins to improve my egg quality and his sperm quality. We tried everything. Month after month, for three years, the pregnancy test read negative. Every single time.

It was heartbreaking. I wanted a baby so badly.

🩺 Moving on to Fertility Treatments

After three years, we decided to try Intrauterine Insemination (IUI). Still negative after the first try. Then, the clinic contacted me about participating in a medical study using a new device called FemaSeed, which was designed to be more effective. I decided to try it.

And to my utter surprise, it worked.
After three long years, I was pregnant.

But my joy was short-lived. My HCG levels were low and not doubling as expected. At my first ultrasound, the technician couldn’t find a pregnancy. After two more ultrasounds, it was confirmed: I was having an ectopic pregnancy.

I was crushed.

We could have continued trying with more IUIs, but the fear of another ectopic pregnancy haunted me. After many long discussions with my husband, we decided to move forward with IVF.

💉 The IVF Rollercoaster

Let me tell you, IVF is not easy or cheap. My doctor tailored a protocol based on my medical history (if anyone is interested in the details of my protocol and results, comment and follow. I’ll share them!).

I went through:

• Countless medications and injections

• Egg retrieval

• Fertilization

• Embryo development

• A single embryo transfer (with others stored for later)

And in 2024, I was finally pregnant with my rainbow baby. I was ecstatic.

Then, another surprise, during one of my early ultrasounds, we discovered that my single embryo had split. I was carrying identical twins.

However, my happiness was short-lived again. At my 12-week ultrasound, I learned that Baby B’s heart had stopped beating. I was devastated and terrified of losing Baby A. I didn’t know if I could handle starting over again.

🤰 The Pregnancy That Tested Everything

My pregnancy was hard, physically, mentally, and emotionally. I lived in constant fear. I battled awful symptoms and gained 80 pounds. My mental health took a huge toll. But despite it all, it was worth every second.

That same year, I delivered a healthy baby boy, and today, he’s a happy, thriving 12-month-old. 💙

Looking back, there are a few things I wish I had known before I started this journey. I hope they help someone else going through the same thing.

💡 5 Things I Wish I Knew Before My Pregnancy

1. Don’t expect an easy pregnancy.
   Before getting pregnant, I was very fit and assumed I’d continue working out. I was wrong. My symptoms were overwhelming, and I simply couldn’t do it.

2. Food aversions are REAL.
   I couldn’t stand the smell of meat, seafood, or even vegetables. All I could stomach were unhealthy meals, which contributed to my weight gain.

3. Infertility is a long journey.
   Infertility can happen to anyone at any time, at any age. I assumed that being young meant I’d conceive easily. I wasn’t prepared for how long and isolating the journey would be. Many people didn’t understand, and I felt alone.

4. Do NOT compare your pregnancy to others.
   It’s so easy to scroll through social media and see influencers with “perfect” pregnancies. Comparison only breeds anxiety. Everybody is different. Focus on the incredible work your body is doing, creating life. Positive affirmations can truly shift your mindset.

5. Give yourself grace.
   Be gentle with yourself during and after pregnancy. You just created human life, that’s extraordinary. You can’t predict symptoms, and you shouldn’t obsess over weight gain. There’s time to focus on that later.

🌈 Final Thoughts

Infertility taught me patience, resilience, and gratitude. It tested me in ways I never imagined, but it also gave me one of the greatest gifts of my life. If you’re walking this path, know that you’re not alone. The journey may be long and hard, but hope is stronger than heartbreak.

💬 If you’re going through infertility or IVF, share your story in the comments. I’d love to connect and support each other. If you found this helpful, consider sharing this with a friend who might need some hope today.

A Day in My Life as a Full-Time Working Mom

A Day in My Life as a Full-Time Working Mom

It’s not easy being a mom — much less adding the responsibility of working 40 hours a week. I’m ambitious and want to work, but that drive comes with a constant tug-of-war between career and home life.

My days start early and end late. The first thing I do each morning is get some caffeine in my system while the house is quiet. Sometimes, if I’m lucky, I squeeze in a quick treadmill run or a gym session before anyone wakes up. (My workout routine will be a whole separate post — trust me, it deserves one!)

Once I’m ready, it’s time to make breakfast for the kids. I have a 13-year-old, an 11-year-old, and a 1-year-old. The older two take the bus to school, which is great — but that leaves me home with my little one. Working from home with a toddler adds an entirely new level of complexity. Thankfully, it’s gotten easier now that he’s more independent and can play on his own for short stretches. Still, I usually put him down for a nap during my lunch break and make sure he gets lunch even when I’m tempted to skip mine.

Distracted toddler while WFM

Before I know it, my workday flies by and the real chaos begins around 4 p.m. when the older kids get home from school.

The After-School Rush

Even though I work from home, my afternoons are far from slow. Once the kids are home, I switch from “work” mode to “mom chauffeur” mode — juggling dinner prep, homework, and sports practices.

My 13-year-old plays football, and my 11-year-old rotates between art and swim lessons, depending on the season. Their activities keep us busy year-round, and I usually have my 1-year-old in tow wherever we go.

Don’t get me wrong — I love seeing my kids thrive in their activities — but some days are definitely more draining than others.

A Partner in the Chaos

So where’s my husband in all of this? He works long 10-hour days but jumps right in when he gets home around 6 p.m. He helps with driving to sports (especially when there are overlapping schedules), keeps an eye on the toddler, and often cooks on weekends. He also plans our family outings, which I truly appreciate.

There are so many small things he does daily that help me take a deep breath and keep going. Having a supportive partner in the middle of all this chaos makes a huge difference.

The Night Shift

Once the kids are showered, fed, and in bed by around 8:30 p.m., the house quiets down again — and that’s when the “fun” begins.

By fun, I mean grad school. 😅

My husband and I are both working on our Master’s degrees, which means our evenings are filled with assignments, studying, and exams. It’s exhausting, but we keep reminding ourselves that it’s a short-term sacrifice for long-term growth.

Repeat

Eventually, our day comes to an end — or we force it to. We set the alarms for 5 a.m. and prepare to do it all over again.

It’s not easy. It’s chaotic. It’s messy. But it’s ours.

And even on the hardest days, I wouldn’t trade this beautifully hectic season of life for anything.

💬 Your Turn

If you’re a working parent, what does your typical day look like? Do you have any routines or hacks that help you stay sane? Share them in the comments — I’d love to hear from you!

About Me

Hi, I’m Michy — welcome!

I’m a working mom navigating the wild, wonderful life of a dual military household with six amazing kids — three of my own and three bonus loves. Blended family life isn’t always simple, but it’s full of heart, learning, and lots of laughter.

Between a full-time career, kids’ activities and sports, managing our home, cooking most nights, and working on my Master’s degree, life is busy (and sometimes beautifully chaotic). I don’t have all the answers, but I’m learning to take it one day at a time — showing up for my family, chasing my goals, and finding joy in the little things along the way.

Here, I share honest moments, lessons learned, and stories from our everyday life — the real stuff that keeps us going and reminds us we’re not alone in the juggle.